- By James Stevenson -
Are you interested in exploring 5 years to live goals? What's appealing to you about this?
This is a big hypothetical question that can be empowering to ponder. It reminds me of the well-known Steve Jobs Stanford Commencement Address about living each day like it's the last. If it's been a while why not have a quick read? It's in the 3rd of 3 stories he shares.
As an accredited coach and positive psychologist I ask questions that allow my clients to think in new ways. Using time in this way can provide a new and helpful perspective.
Because of the existential element to this question, this is definitely one where I'd preface it with, "feel free to skip this question if you like... " or I'd ask "How do you feel about answering a ?? years to live question?". If there is enthusiasm there, then I'd go for it.
If a question doesn't quit hit the spot, I sometimes encourage my clients to explore changing it. If they don't seem keen on 5 years, I might ask how many years would work for you? If death feels a bit grave, I might ask what a more fun version might be? 5 years until I move to Barbados? The idea is to be flexible using the same principles and make it work for each person. How can you make this work best for you?
There are a few ways of doing this exercise. Alone, with a friend, in a small group....
If doing it with a friend, or someone who shares an interest in this topic you can take turns asking each other a question and give the other person perhaps 5 mins to answer while giving them quality natural attention and active listening. i.e. no fidgeting, suitable eye contact, nodding, and listening sounds.
If doing it in a small group, how about going around the group giving 3 minutes for each person to share uninterrupted. Everyone in the group is encouraged to give quality attention and respect. You could do this 2 or 3 times with questions that look at it from a slightly different angle. It can be valuable to have multiple people's differing thoughts about a topic such as this. Lots to learn.
If doing it by yourself, Perhaps as a writing exercise? You could answer all the questions or if you want a quicker exercise, you could choose 3/4 of the most interesting questions for you and see what comes up...
Remember that there is no one-way to answer these questions. There is no correct way or answer. Also feel free to play around with the time-frame.
If you'd like to work on this with an experienced and accredited coach then feel free to get in touch via my one to one coaching site, humancatalyst.co.uk. I'd be happy to help.
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